Get The Ring: How to Find & Keep the Right One for Life.
Mordechai Rottman - Part 9
so much, she has a different world to think about. And her world is not necessarily one which has anything to do with frying pans, stoves, cooking, laundry or anything like that. And so suddenly he sees that what he liked so much, suddenly seems to be a great disadvantage in the situation that he’s in. Again, if he focuses on his disadvantages without thinking of the advantages, and without realizing that it’s just the other side of the same coin, he could reach the decision one day that maybe he married the wrong person. But if he thinks — Hey, more than anything else I wanted a person I can connect to intellectually. More than anything else I wanted a person I can relate in a deep, meaningful, philosophical plane. And he starts to realize that people who are that way are not known necessarily to be able to be involved in the world of things as much as they are involved in the world of ideas. And what’s going to happen is that if he doesn’t realize that, he’s going to think that he married the wrong one. Chances are that he’s just not going to appreciate that the advantages that he sees in this woman are also the disadvantages.
It’s all the same thing in different situations. It’s unrealistic to expect a person to be able to be exactly the way you want them to be in each and every situation. It’s impossible as a matter of fact. Because we’re not perfect. And so the person who is involved in the intellectual, philosophical sphere is going to have a harder time dealing with objects and things. That’s usually the way it goes. And the person who is super consistent, reliable, dependable, may not be as much fun as the person who is not. And perhaps, yes, indeed we will all have to strive to become as perfect as possible, but we’re limited by our personalities.
When I talk about appreciation of the personality of the person, I mean being able to appreciate the whole person. And the idea is that while there are going to be advantages, there are also going to be disadvantages in the very same things that you like. Well, how do you decide what to go for? You have to ask yourself what is more important for you. But you’re going to have to compromise on something. The question is, what do you want to compromise on? I’m going to speak later on at the end of this class, that those people who expect all, they’re very unrealistic, but it’s also nothing short of simple arrogance.
Appreciating the whole personality including both sides of the coin, that’s a powerful point I never thought about. There’s one more area which we have barely touched, one that we have to admit is rather important to most people who are looking for a partner. And that’s the question of looks.
Number Four – Physical AppearanceLooks. Certainly today many people will tell you that this is the most important thing. Well, I’ll tell you, it is important. It’s not the most important thing though, but
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