Introduction

Rabbi Mordecai Rottman, M.A. is a practicing psychotherapist trained at the Long Island University and a popular teacher and lecturer living in Jerusalem with his wife and family. You can reach Rabbi Rottman via email at mordecai@netvision.net.il. In the following presentation he will share with us his insights on what to look for in a spouse, using that framework to provide some broad range philosophies on dating and marriage.

Four Things to Look for in a Spouse

The name of this class is “Four Things to Look for When Looking for a Spouse”, looking for a lifelong partner, which is what we hope that marriage is going to be. Now these are the things you’re supposed to look for when you’re going out, but these are also things to focus on after you get married. Because ultimately many of the ideas that we’re going to focus on are important not just before you get married, but after you get married as well.

Number One - Kindness What’s the first thing that you’re going to look for when trying to find the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with? Remember, you want to have a marriage, you want to have a relationship where you love each other, where you