she met a new attendee. They exchanged personal information about each other after class and our friend casually mentioned that she was getting married in the summer. "Mazel Tov," said her new friend. “Who's the lucky guy?“ She answered, "I don't know. I haven't met him yet. But I know what he's going to be like." And she mentioned a couple of the qualities she was looking for. "Wait a minute," said the new friend, and she ran to the pay phone… Now remember, this was a few years ago and everybody didn't walk around with a cell phone glued to their ear. However, she made a phone call and returned with a big smile on her face. She said, "I knew just the man that you described, and now you have a date with him Saturday night." Well, wouldn't you know it? That summer our friend married that man.

We often suggest that single men and women look for a good matchmaker in their community and add that matchmaker to their network.

Excuse me. You can't be serious. Professional matchmaker? Isn't that kind of medieval?

We're not talking about Yenta from "Fiddler on the Roof"! I know a lot of people get frightened when they hear the word "matchmaker", but I will tell you that there are a growing number of very dedicated men and women who want to help people meet. In addition, there are even groups in a number of communities that get together once a week or once a month to help match up people that they know. You are going to have to find someone that you feel has your interests at heart and someone you feel you can work well with together to get results. And you should touch base with them every month or so at an agreed-upon time, because they may not know anybody the first time you speak to them or even the second, but in two or three months down the line, they may have just the right person to set you up with. And Rosie and I also recommend that you remember to apply the other aspects of job searching to your personal life. You may want to polish your appearance a little. Sometimes we start neglecting how we look, and it definitely affects the impression that we make on somebody we meet. It may also be a good idea to deal with issues that may have held you back from success in the past. Hopefully you can look forward to an introduction to someone in the near future.

You mentioned that it's important to tell the people in your network what it is that you're looking for. Well, how are we supposed to know what exactly it is that we're looking for? Don't you just need a mysterious somebody whose chemistry matches your own? Someone whose personality will click with yours?

All of us want somebody whose personality complements our own. But that's a very hard thing for someone else to anticipate. Most of the time you are not going