Planning the Big Day

Another piece of important advice. Today it is tragically common that people will blow massive amounts of money on a wedding when later on down the line they're really going to need that money to stay afloat, to stay financially above water. And it's a vicious cycle because since everybody else throws such expensive weddings, if we don't throw such an expensive wedding, then it doesn't look nice. But if the couple is creative and they're clever, they can find ways to drastically reduce costs. And it doesn't mean that you can't invite a large party to the wedding. You can invite a very large group of people, but you don't need to have a long dessert table, you don't need necessarily to have smorgasbord. There are very expensive aspects of the celebration that can be reduced and no-one will really care. Ironically, I've found that those people who thought carefully and spent less on their wedding, they tend to have the most spectacular memories of their wedding. Perhaps because they were focusing on more important things.

Another important thing to keep in mind at the wedding. Under the marriage canopy you have a captive audience. There are a large group of people sitting there usually, who are listening to every word, because it's a very special moment. And if there are ideals that the two of you are going to be building your marriage on… religious ideals, moral ideals, ethical ideals… that is a good time for the couple and/or any clergy who are present, to affirm those ideals. Not only because it creates such a beautiful environment for the couple that they get to