Get The Ring: How to Find & Keep the Right One for Life.
Shimon Green - Part 3
speaking is not really theory, it’s also experience. Some person went to college, and got a degree in psychology or sociology, something to do with child rearing. So the guy puts out this book – "the six rules of child raising". You know, the guy never had a kid. A little later he gets married, he has a kid, and now he says – "the six theories of child raising", then "the guidelines of child raising". Then he says – "six possible ideas about child raising". You have to be in the field.
I’ve been in the field. I’ve been married almost all my life. And I can tell you this, that all the greatness and all the satisfaction of marriage is only about one thing. And that’s what you have to know when you want to know what to do and what to look for. That’s about being nice to someone else. And the greatest thing about marriage is being kind to another person and then that other decent person will be kind to you.
I’m going to explain you the theory and then it will all hold together. Like I mentioned before, you’ll see that whenever you’re embarrassed, whenever you feel bad or down or low, it’s because you confront your own shortcomings. No one wants to feel imperfect. When you feel you’re not pretty enough, you’re not handsome enough, you’re not smart enough, you’re not strong enough, you’re not rich enough, you’re not fast enough. That was the story. That’s when people feel bad and they need. Whenever we feel needy we feel bad. And whenever we feel not needy, when we feel that we possess things, that we have what to give out to others, that’s when we feel good. That’s when everybody feels great. You always feel wonderful in that situation. And you know what’s the nicest thing in the world that you can do? The worst thing in the world is when a person has to feel selfish. The most wonderful is when a person feels the opposite of selfish: generous and giving. You know what the nicest thing in the world you can do for somebody else is? You’re going to freak. What you can do is, you can save a person from being selfish. If you can give somebody what they need before they have to take it, you’re a real hero. And believe me, a person will love you more than anything in the world if you do that. I’m telling you the deepest secret. We should make a Dale Carnegie course on this because I’m telling you this is what does it. You preempt people from being selfish. How do you do that? By answering their needs before they have to take them, and then you’re going to be a hero for anybody. That’s anybody. Man, woman, dog, anything. Anything you do in the world. I’m telling you. Anybody whose needs you take care of before they have to take them is going to love you to pieces. And therefore… that’s why I say the nicest thing a person can do for anybody is to preempt them, and to be kind to them and to give them their needs before they have to be selfish and take them.
Now what do a husband and wife do for each other ideally if they can? What they do is, they get in there and they do that role. They save each other from being
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